Refuting Your Excuses
by Brad Lyman and Michael Edelstein, Ph.D.
“It’s easy to quit smoking. I’ve done it hundreds of times.” ~Mark Twain
Stopping? Easy. “Staying stopped?” Not so much.
Have you ever had thoughts like these?:
“I can start tomorrow”, “I really need a drink”, “I’m too tired”, “I’ll just have one”, “This is how I have fun with my friends, it’s not hurting anybody,” “It’s too hard to quit.”
“Excuses” are statements we sometimes make to ourselves that make our addictive behavior seem reasonable.
In other words, we use excuses to justify behavior that we know is harmful. These excuses are destructive. They block, interfere, or sabotage our goals of addiction recovery and more. We may be so practiced in thinking these excuses that they have become automatic. We may not even be aware that we’re making these excuses unless we pay close attention to our thoughts.
“Refutations” are statements that disprove or weaken an “excuse.”
“Refuting Your Excuses” is an exercise for learning to pay attention to our habitual excuses and to evaluate them logically. Is the excuse true? Does it make good sense? Is it helpful?
How to Refute an Excuse:
1. For a recurring or current excuse you use, Continue reading