Get Your Loved One Sober: Alternatives to Nagging, Pleading, and Threatening Reviewed by Henry Steinberger, Ph.D.
To help people seeking sobriety for their loved ones, Get Your Loved One Sober offers a revolutionary program: The Community Reinforcement And Family Training (CRAFT) intervention. The subtitle, “Alternatives to Nagging, Pleading, and Threatening” more aptly describes what this book is about. Getting a loved one into treatment is not the first goal. Arranging for one’s own safety and finding a happier life independent of the drinker’s situation, takes priority. Getting a loved one to moderate, choose sobriety, or go into treatment, are offered as roads to a better relationship.
Still, CRAFT can boast phenomenal success getting people into treatment. An alternative to Al-Anon’s 12-Step tradition and “detachment” recommendations and the Johnson Institute’s confrontational interventions, the CRAFT program is based on non-confrontational behavioral principles like reinforcement. It gives the reader tools and instructions for changing their interactions with their loved ones, which in turn changes the loved one’s behavior. In repeated clinical trials, CRAFT proved twice as likely as the Johnson Intervention and six times as likely as Al-Anon to get loved ones into treatment.
Dr. Robert J. Meyers, creator of the Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT) treatment approach, long-term practitioner in the field of addiction recovery, and co-author of the book Get Your Loved One Sober: Alternatives to Nagging, Pleading and Threatening, will be a special Guest Speaker at the Monday, April 18th SMART Recovery online meeting for Family & Friends, 9:00pm-10:30pm est. Dr. Meyers will address topics related to CRAFT, as well as answer questions from the meeting participants.
The SMART Recovery® Family & Friends meeting is designed for individuals who have a loved one with an addiction and offers a unique blend of weekly discussions in an interactive environment. The meetings use topics from Dr. Meyers’ book, CRAFT concepts, and SMART Recovery tools to assist Family & Friends. Our members frequently express enthusiasm and describe tangible results from using this approach.
From our message boards:
“So last night after a couple of hours (to let him sober up) we had a good talk. OMG CRAFT methods work!!! I am doing much better in how I approach these conversations, and can see that he is starting to get a glimmer of understanding that I’m coming from a place of love and not attacking him.”