Why Set Goals? Peter Soderman, SMART Recovery® Facilitator, Mexico
Most people understand that the best way to keep your vehicle headed straight on the highway is to focus your eyes on the furthest point you can see, and let your peripheral vision take care of what’s happening close to you. I was taught that simple trick in High School Driver’s Ed, and had it reinforced in every driving school I have ever attended. The technique has the added benefit of allowing you to see trouble (like brake lights coming on) when it’s still far enough away for you to react in plenty of time. You can easily spot the drivers who aren’t doing this, their cars or trucks are weaving back and forth within, or slightly outside of their lanes, as they fix their gaze right over their hood and try to adjust to a position that is constantly changing.
What has this technique to do with the importance of setting goals, and changing our belief systems? Quite a lot, actually, and that’s the subject of this post. In the early stages of quitting addictions, our gaze is pretty much fixed right over the hood, in the sense that any goals we set are liable to be extremely short-term, and not very complicated. Our early goals might simply be abstaining for a day, a few days, a week, or a month. In the beginning, it’s difficult for us to focus much farther ahead than this, because we’re still discovering that there is a life without our addiction. Continue reading →
Working out can help you sober up Anne M. Fletcher, M.S., R.D.
“…one of the more promising and least talked about tools for treating and recovering from addiction is exercise.”
My drinking began the way drinking usually begins: as part of teenage havin’ a good time and rebelling against strict parents. I wasn’t one of those drinkers who fell in love with alcohol at first sip. No, I had to work at it. To this day, I curse “Martini Mark,” a former flame so dubbed by my roommate and me because he “taught” me how to appreciate the gin-and-vermouth combination.
When I was in my 20s, wine and occasional hard-liquor drinks on weekends became nightly martinis. Alcohol came to fill a hole in my spirit, temporarily erasing any sadness, stress, anger or guilt. I craved alcohol, but I also longed to be healthy, both physically and emotionally, and this inconsistency made me feel terrible. During my years of heavy drinking – primarily from my mid-20s to my early 30s – I was a jogger, often covering five miles, five times a week. But I used exercise as a punitive device: It redeemed me after an evening of drinking. Slowly, though, I began to realize that when I exercised, I felt better both in body and mind.
With the help of counseling from an addiction psychologist, I eventually quit drinking and learned to get my emotional needs met in ways that really did make me feel better. Continue reading →
“Adventurous Living” Part 2: Intimate Adventures: Close Associations with Ed Garcia, CSW
Are you missing a sense of connection with your family and friends?
Do you feel like you just can’t seem to get close to anyone?
Is something holding you back from forming new friendships and close relationships?
Are you in a rut and missing out on a healthy social life?
November 15, 2013 6pm ET : Ed Garcia joins SMART Recovery to present Part 2 in his “Adventurous Living” series, this Friday.
“Intimacy generally refers to the feeling of being in a close personal association and having a sense of belonging. It is a familiar and very close emotional connection with another person as a result of a bond that is formed through knowledge and experience with that person. Intimacy is highly desired and yet thwarted and rejected by many individuals. This segment of Adventurous Living will explore the various types of intimacy, as well as the issues that prevent many people from experiencing the joy of that feeling.” ~Ed Garcia
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About Ed Garcia:Mr. Garcia has an extensive and diversified background in the field of human behavior. He holds both an under graduate and graduate degree from New York University. His post graduate work was conducted at the Institute for Advanced Study in Rational Emotive Therapy. During that time, Mr. Garcia worked extensively with Dr. Albert Ellis and became a Fellow and Co-Director of Clinical Training. He has lectured and conducted seminars at 35 colleges and universities throughout the U.S., Latin America and Europe and conducted professional in-service training seminars at more than 60 hospitals and mental health centers throughout the U.S. Made guest appearances on national television. He currently teaches at Mercer and Emory universities and is concentrating part of his time as a sculptor, featured at several galleries in the Atlanta area.Continue reading →
Leigh is a dedicated and passionate volunteer facilitator for SMART Recovery UK. Says another UK Volunteer: “Leigh is totally selfless and very loved by all whose path she crosses. If Leigh says she is going to do something you know it is going to happen. Her positive attitude is infectious.” In addition to her other responsibilities, Leigh is currently working with a team of volunteers to start a UK online meeting for Family & Friends later this year. Continue reading →